My friend Connie posted an article on facebook. Although I enjoyed the article(click here to view), I like even more what my sweet friend had to share. Her words were too applicable not to share. The struggle is real for all of us.
I titled it “Everyday Wonder Women”, because we each put on so many hats, including an invisible super hero crown, and happy faces(even when we can hardly bear it) and rescue others in need. But I’m sure even Wonder Woman had an insecurity.
From my friend Connie:
I’m going to get on my soapbox for moment, please stay with me…
I’m not fat, I don’t have acne, I have all of my limbs, and don’t have NOTICEABLE scars. The scars I have are all internal. There was a time that I was “stabbed” in the heart over and over and over again. I struggle to maintain 105lbs. I have trouble finding a bra that is small enough for me, my butt doesnt fill out my size 2 jeans. I exercise, eat healthy, and have expensive face care products. Even small women have their imperfections! Due to undesirable circumstances I was in, I came to hate myself and my body. I remember looking in the mirror starting at my eyes and ending at my toes, naming what I hated about every part of my body. My small boobs, my skinny bony fingers, my big teeth, my flat butt, my fleshy knees… I can go on forever. I would break down inside every time I had to stand in line at Walmart and see the covers of various magazines portraying perfect beautiful women. I remember crying while getting ready for a wedding (my brothers) and dreading having to be surrounded by beautiful women. I never wanted to leave my house. I felt ugly and undesirable.
WOMEN, of all shapes and sizes, YOU are beautiful! Yes, we all deserve to be loved for our bodies, that includes our brains and our hearts and our gentle loving arms. There is not one person on this earth that has a perfect body. There is no body that is perfectly symmetrical. Attractive people who seem to have it all may have internal issues. NO ONE IS PERFECT.
It took me years to be able to see myself as beautiful, nothing has changed about my body, but my mind changed and my heart changed. The God that scattered the stars in the heavens and created exotic forests and dreamy fairytale-like springs, is the same God that created our bodies, he created us, and He loves US more than the stars.
I resent the tabloids and entertainment that feed men and women false ideas of what a perfect body is. The tabloids and entertainment aren’t going anywhere. My little boy needs to be taught the beauty of character and mind, my daughter needs to be taught that her smile will melt hearts and her personality is above reproach. Our generation has scarred us and we’ve got to learn from it so that we can teach our children to rise above it.
No, my body isn’t perfect but I love it and I take care of it. Its the only body that I will ever have, The next 60 years of my life would be hell if I choose to hate it, especially since it’s probably not going to get any better. Lol.
Love yourselves, love your bodies, take care of your bodies. You learn to love those things that you put effort and time into. Don’t obsess with your looks, but do try to find out what makes you feel good and beautiful, and you do that every day. You will ‘grow’ on yourself and eventually love yourself because you put effort, thought, and sacrifice into it. Anything that we love, we love because we invested. Invest in yourself! (i’m not talking about cosmetic surgery)
And one more thing! Women’s bodies rock! We grow babies, we feed babies, we survive birth and pregnancy. Our stomachs almost burst our chest triple in size. It’s amazing and miraculous, our bodies create life, sustain life. Sometimes our bodies don’t bounce back to the way they were before, but it is all worth it, isn’t it? We are AWESOME!
Fight the good fight ladies. We are daughters of a King. We all have beauty!!!